Who are you?

Posted on October 6, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Have you been asking yourself this question? What answers have you come up with? 

For many of us, when we are asked “who are you” we answer with a description of our various roles. These roles often include our family status “I am a wife, a mother, sister, aunt, uncle, brother and so on”. Some people describe themselves by their occupation “I am a nurse, teacher, secretary, business man, plumber” and others describe themselves by their sports or hobbies such as “I am a golfer, runner, hockey player, artist and so on”. Others may describe themselves by how they interact with the world “I am happy, fun, connected, loving, inspirational, creative” and any other words that describe their personality.

All of these roles and descriptions are part of who you are, however, if you were to strip away these words, who are you beneath the surface?  Who is the essence of you? This can be a challenging exercise. WHY? Because many people do not spend any time really getting to know who they are and what makes them tick.  They go through life doing things, rushing through life and meeting external expectations, but few people spend time with themselves. 

Developing a relationship with yourself  takes time and people are short on time. Few people see developing this relationship as a priority. I would like to suggest that making time to nurture this relationship is essential to your short and long term happiness.  

Imagine you have been introduced to someone new. If you see the relationship as one that you would like to pursue further, do you instantly trust them, love them, confide in them, know them and understand them.  The answer for most people is NO. 
 
A relationship takes time to grow and mature. Your relationship with yourself is no different. Getting to know who you are and what is really important to you takes time. When we are busy with life, and spend little time getting to know ourselves, how can our relationship with ourselves grow and mature? 
 
Finding out who you are begins by giving yourself time to be in relationship with you. This concept may be foreign to you so give yourself permission to ease into it. 
 
Begin by scheduling time today to take 2-5 minutes to take some deep breaths as you tune into your body. This is a good first step to developing a connection with yourself. For those of you who are members of the moment-is community, listening to your download of the intentional breath daily is a good place to start. 
 
I am not asking you to set aside loads of time, just 5 minutes each day. Put it on your calendar, set the alarm. If you make a commitment to start paying attention to your relationship with yourself,  it will be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
 
Take care and I will blog with you later.
 
Gerrianne

 

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