To Stress or Not to Stress - That is The Question
Posted on March 17, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Do I want to be stressed or not stressed – that is my question.
How can I have my business, be with my family and live the life I want within the context of my current day reality? There are so many demands from different aspects of my life that I often get pulled in a zillion different directions. I was under the misguided belief that if my children were grown and gone from the house that I would not have anything that would get off balance. Was I ever mistaken, I have a whole life that I want to keep healthy and strong. This means I need to pay attention to the many facets of my life. I have a great husband and I want to nurture that relationship. I have wonderful children whom I want to stay in contact with. I have great friends whom I want to stay connected with and I have my body, mind and emotions that I want to be respectful of. My choice is simple however, do I want to fully be in my life, loving what is and being present in all that I do? Or, do I want to try and do more, be more, accomplish more because I should.
It has been almost a month since I last blogged. (I sound like I am in a confessional). This is not because I have not had things to say, it is because I have not committed the time and energy into focusing my thoughts into the written word. Life has been busy and I have chosen different priorities. The truth is, I have missed blogging because it gives me a voice to share what I want to with the world.
One of the things I have been doing over the past month has been working on getting all aspects of my online community smooth and streamlined. I have started using Infusionsoft which is a system that will enable me to follow up on clients in a timely manner without spamming them. It has been a steep learning curve yet I feel I am over the hump and I am getting more done with it.
I have also been doing some personal work over the past month which has brought about some great insights. One example is that I used to believe that I was inherently lazy. When I would get to the end of the day and look back on all I had accomplished and it was never enough. This was odd as I often work from sun up to sun down, commit to a crazy number of things in my life and yet I never felt it was enough.
I recently did some work with myself from the “
Emotion Code”.
This awesome book by Dr. Bradley Nelson helps you learn how to release emotions that become trapped in your body throughout your life’s experiences. What I discovered about myself is that I had a trapped emotion around my belief that I was lazy. When I asked my subconscious (through muscle testing) what the trapped emotion was, I discovered it was around “rejection”.
Through digging deeper, I realized that this emotion of rejection became trapped as a young girl growing up in a large family. I remember trying so hard to show the rest of my family members that I was worthy of their love and affection, but the amount of teasing and verbal abuse I would endure (especially from my brothers and older sister) made me feel from a very young age that “I was never enough” and “I was different”. Even though I have a healthy relationship with my family members now and we have a good time together, I remember the feeling that they never understood me (or did not want me in their lives) as if it was yesterday. Once I released this trapped emotion from my body, I felt so much freer to be myself. I got on a very deep level that I am a good person, I work hard and that I deserve to love and respect myself for all I am. I moved to a place of compassion for myself around how hard I work everyday and this is a beautiful place to be.
Therefore, to answer the question – to stress or not to stress – I have decided that I want to be in my life and not fight what is. Stress comes from fighting what is true in this moment. So this last month, I began to stress that I had not written my blog, and had let things go around my business.
The truth is, I worked really hard this past month for my business however, it was not in the way that others could see. I worked from sun up to sun down and I have done enough. I will not stress about what I should have done, but will rest quietly in the beauty of what I did do.
Let me know if you are struggling with never being enough. It is a common feeling among both men and women in our society. Where does this feeling come from? What do you want to do about it? Do you want to stress or not stress in your life? There is a different way to be and feel in your life. It may be your opportunity to do things differently. Take some time to explore what you want for you.
Take care all and I will blog with you soon.
Gerrianne
