Moment-Is Blog http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog Be Your Own Best Friend http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/be-your-own-best-friend Years ago I read a book - "How to be your own best friend".  I do not remember the author but I do remember how the concept intrigued me.  It is amazing how often I would speak to myself in a way I would not speak to my enemies let alone a best friend.  Our mind chatter or inner critic that dwells within can be very abusive. How about you?  Do you have an inner critic that likes to tell you what more you should have done or could have done if only you were more committed, more enlightened, more organized etc. 

How often do you give yourself a pat on the back, tell yourself you did a good job, or sing your praises to others?  If you are like most of my clients, you never or rarely give yourself any acknowledgement for a job well done.  Do you suffer from the "not enough" syndrome?  What this means is, no matter how hard you work or how good you are, you will never be enough, do enough or have enough to feel good enou

]]> Mon, 21 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST When you fear telling the truth!! http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/when-you-fear-telling-the-truth  How often do you reveal your true self to the world?

The inner dialogue that many people have is “if people really know who I am, what I am thinking and what I am feeling, they would not like me”. This is called “imposter syndrome”. We feel like imposters in our lives because the way we present ourselves to the world has to look a certain way but is not really who we are. We fear that if our true nature were revealed we would be ridiculed or ignored.

]]> Wed, 16 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST Parent Your Teens With Confidence http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/parent-your-teens-with-confidence If you are like most parents you want to guide your children into being happy, well adjusted, responsible adults. 

The challenge is you are overwhelmed and frustrated with their acting our behavior, they don’t listen to you anymore and you don’t know how to let things go and let them grow. 
 
They don’t come with a rule book.

There is a way to meet your goals of being an effective, clear parent and not feel tortured on the inside by the decisions you make and the expectations that you have.   

]]> Thu, 10 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST Take the Moment-is Challenge http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/take-the-moment-is-challenge I posted this challenge a year ago and even to this day I am getting comments about how much people enjoyed this post.  So I thought I would put it out there again.  I find using this system of tuning into the present moment is ideal for helping me to decrease my stress as I realize all I can do is what I can do in this moment.  So here it is.  Enjoy and let me know what you notice with doing this. 

Many of us are WAY TOO BUSY to spend a lot of time on personal development but yet are desperate to find better ways to be more connected with ourselves, our children and our world.  So I have developed the Moment-Is Challenge and use it myself every day.


For the next 30 days we are asking you to set aside 5 minutes each day to be “in the moment“.

]]> Mon, 31 May 2010 00:00:00 PST Executive Women Having it All - What is the truth? http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/executive-women-having-it-all-what-is-the-truth I would love your help. 
I am in the process of developing more “in the moment” tools for busy executive women to reduce their stress and feel better NOW. I also am working on a book to be written for the top executive woman who wants to “have it all” in her life. To that end, I would love your thoughts about the following!
 

How are you doing – really? Are you excited about where your life is going? Do you feel “at peace” with who you are and what you have accomplished so far?

 For the past 35 years, through my work as a nurse, workshop facilitator, life coach and stress management expert I have had the privilege of working with thousands of individuals (primarily women) in helping them find the answers to these questions honestly. It has been an amazing journey.
]]> Fri, 23 Apr 2010 00:00:00 PST 4 Things You Can Do To Feel Better NOW http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/4-things-you-can-do-to-feel-better-now How often do you outline the things you need to change in your life order to feel better?  The truth is, we only have this moment in time to do anything.  We can plan for the future - in this moment.  However, in this moment, we can only do what we can do NOW.

]]> Tue, 20 Apr 2010 00:00:00 PST 5 minutes to Self Discovery - Yes you need to take the time http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/5-minutes-to-self-discovery-yes-you-need-to-take-the-time Who are you? Many people answer this question with a description of their various roles.

For me I am a mother, coach, workplace consultant, former nurse, wife, sister, aunt, friend etc. With each of these roles I have certain expectations as to how I want to fulfill them. For example as a mom, I have three adult children whom I love spending time with, imparting my words of wisdom to (always being careful not to overdo the WISDOM part) and for many years my children defined me. By that I mean, everything that they said and did were a direct reflection of me i.e. their accomplishments, their dreams, their sorrows, their joys and their mistakes. I was totally tied into their stories and their lives to define me as a good mom, an attentive mom, someone who had it handled, someone who makes mistakes or someone who was not good enough or there enough for my kids. I had many judgements as to how well I fulfilled my role.

]]> Tue, 06 Apr 2010 00:00:00 PST 6 “In The Moment” Questions to Decrease Your Stress - NOW http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/6-in-the-moment-questions-to-decrease-your-stress-now We have a tremendous amount of mind chatter that goes on beneath the surface. Often the conversations are negative abusive statements such as “you should”, “why did you do that” and  “what is wrong with you?”  These can lead to feelings of stress and overwhelm as you try and quiet the mind.   Wouldn’t it be nice to speak with gentleness and kindness to yourself? To be loving and respectful of all you say and do. 

The moment-is pie is a great place to steer your internal conversations onto the right track. This pie has 6 questions that help you get grounded and centered into this present moment experience - into the NOW.   People often feel stressed and dissatisfied with their life as they struggle with what is their current reality.  Learning to recognize your in the moment experience can be a great stress reducer as you learn to "be here, NOW"
]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 00:00:00 PST Day 8 - Easier Said than Done http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/day-8-easier-said-than-done Have you ever had one of those days that life is great, you are in your groove, you are on top of the world then all of a sudden you are racing around like a chicken with its head cut off? 
Well that describes me during the last two days. 
 
As I began work on Day 6 I was quite encouraged about how grounded I was and how well I was doing with "Living in the Moment".  I meditated for 20 minutes and felt amazing. I worked with two great coaching clients in the morning.  We did some PSYCH-K and shifting of subconscious beliefs, visualizations and goal setting, and released some emotional blocks.  I was in the flow, living in the moment, breathing, connecting with my inner self then bham!!  Things changed.
]]> Thu, 11 Feb 2010 00:00:00 PST Day 2 - Living in the Moment or Trying To http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/day-2-living-in-the-moment-or-trying-to  Day 2 - Living in the Moment is easier for me when I am on vacation..  There are no plans, no schedules.  Just being able to be with the fresh ocean air, the blue skies and the sensations that are going on in my body keeps me grounded in the present moment. 

Did I keep my commitment to tuning into my body with my breath a minimum of 8 times during the day? 

I am now asking myself, why did I commit to doing this?

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