Moment-Is Blog http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog Parenting - Career Versus Motherhood - Finding Your Balance!! http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/parenting-career-versus-motherhood-finding-your-balance  As a mom, there was nothing more challenging for me that finding the balance between my career and my family. I was working full time as a nurse in the Intensive Care Unit when my son was born.  I took a maternity leave for 3 months to be at home with him. The thought of leaving him in a day care after that time was too much to bear.  My husband’s job was in transition and this created the opportunity for me to stay at home full time with our son. We were incredibly lucky to have this happen.

]]> Mon, 26 Jul 2010 00:00:00 PST Be Your Own Best Friend http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/be-your-own-best-friend Years ago I read a book - "How to be your own best friend".  I do not remember the author but I do remember how the concept intrigued me.  It is amazing how often I would speak to myself in a way I would not speak to my enemies let alone a best friend.  Our mind chatter or inner critic that dwells within can be very abusive. How about you?  Do you have an inner critic that likes to tell you what more you should have done or could have done if only you were more committed, more enlightened, more organized etc. 

How often do you give yourself a pat on the back, tell yourself you did a good job, or sing your praises to others?  If you are like most of my clients, you never or rarely give yourself any acknowledgement for a job well done.  Do you suffer from the "not enough" syndrome?  What this means is, no matter how hard you work or how good you are, you will never be enough, do enough or have enough to feel good enou

]]> Mon, 21 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST When you fear telling the truth!! http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/when-you-fear-telling-the-truth  How often do you reveal your true self to the world?

The inner dialogue that many people have is “if people really know who I am, what I am thinking and what I am feeling, they would not like me”. This is called “imposter syndrome”. We feel like imposters in our lives because the way we present ourselves to the world has to look a certain way but is not really who we are. We fear that if our true nature were revealed we would be ridiculed or ignored.

]]> Wed, 16 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST 7 Reasons to Change ONE Habit at a time http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/7-reasons-to-change-one-habit-at-a-time  

 When you look at your whole life, do you feel you need a major overhaul or just need a minor tune up? 

 For those of you who feel a major overhaul is in order, the tendency is to try and fix your whole life all at once. For a variety of reasons those who approach changing more than one habit or circumstance at a time, are often unsuccessful in achieving their goals. 
 

 

]]> Wed, 09 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST Summertime Connection and Fun http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/summertime-connection-and-fun Making this a reality for you Family

When you look ahead to summer, the knowledge that there will be less structure to your days can be very appealing. Imagining lazy days of sitting in the back yard or at the beach relaxing and enjoying the company of family and friends tends to dominate our thoughts. 

However, creating the opportunity for quality connections and fun this summer does not happen without some intention, action and planning along the way. 

What does your ideal summer look like?

]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 00:00:00 PST Who am I - Answer this question and reduce your stress http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/who-am-i-answer-this-question-and-reduce-your-stress

Do you know who you are and what is important to you? 

There may be days that you feel like you are everyone else's person defined by the roles that you fill in their life.  Whether you are a mother, teacher, lawyer, garbage collector, or unemployed who are you behind the roles?

]]> Thu, 13 May 2010 00:00:00 PST 4 Things You Can Do To Feel Better NOW http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/4-things-you-can-do-to-feel-better-now How often do you outline the things you need to change in your life order to feel better?  The truth is, we only have this moment in time to do anything.  We can plan for the future - in this moment.  However, in this moment, we can only do what we can do NOW.

]]> Tue, 20 Apr 2010 00:00:00 PST Are you Interested in Complaining About Your Life or Doing Somthing About It? http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/are-you-interested-in-complaining-about-your-life-or-doing-somthing-about-it  How many times have you heard yourself telling the same story over and over about how this thing or that thing is not working in your life? Do you feel like a broken record? What are you doing to make things different in your life? 

The truth is, many people are addicted to the drama in their lives. They would prefer to talk about what is wrong and get agreement from others than take steps to change or improve what they can.
]]> Tue, 30 Mar 2010 00:00:00 PST 6 “In The Moment” Questions to Decrease Your Stress - NOW http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/6-in-the-moment-questions-to-decrease-your-stress-now We have a tremendous amount of mind chatter that goes on beneath the surface. Often the conversations are negative abusive statements such as “you should”, “why did you do that” and  “what is wrong with you?”  These can lead to feelings of stress and overwhelm as you try and quiet the mind.   Wouldn’t it be nice to speak with gentleness and kindness to yourself? To be loving and respectful of all you say and do. 

The moment-is pie is a great place to steer your internal conversations onto the right track. This pie has 6 questions that help you get grounded and centered into this present moment experience - into the NOW.   People often feel stressed and dissatisfied with their life as they struggle with what is their current reality.  Learning to recognize your in the moment experience can be a great stress reducer as you learn to "be here, NOW"
]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 00:00:00 PST To Stress or Not to Stress - That is The Question http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question

Do I want to be stressed or not stressed – that is my question.

How can I have my business, be with my family and live the life I want within the context of my current day reality? There are so many demands from different aspects of my life that I often get pulled in a zillion different directions. I was under the misguided belief that if my children were grown and gone from the house that I would not have anything that would get off balance. Was I ever mistaken, I have a whole life that I want to keep healthy and strong. This means I need to pay attention to the many facets of my life. I have a great husband and I want to nurture that relationship. I have wonderful children whom I want to stay in contact with. I have great friends whom I want to stay connected with and I have my body, mind and emotions that I want to be respectful of. My choice is simple however, do I want to fully be in my life, loving what is and being present in all that I do? Or, do I want to try and do more, be more, accomplish more because I should.

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