Moment-Is Blog http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog Be Your Own Best Friend http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/be-your-own-best-friend Years ago I read a book - "How to be your own best friend".  I do not remember the author but I do remember how the concept intrigued me.  It is amazing how often I would speak to myself in a way I would not speak to my enemies let alone a best friend.  Our mind chatter or inner critic that dwells within can be very abusive. How about you?  Do you have an inner critic that likes to tell you what more you should have done or could have done if only you were more committed, more enlightened, more organized etc. 

How often do you give yourself a pat on the back, tell yourself you did a good job, or sing your praises to others?  If you are like most of my clients, you never or rarely give yourself any acknowledgement for a job well done.  Do you suffer from the "not enough" syndrome?  What this means is, no matter how hard you work or how good you are, you will never be enough, do enough or have enough to feel good enou

]]> Mon, 21 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST 7 Reasons to Change ONE Habit at a time http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/7-reasons-to-change-one-habit-at-a-time  

 When you look at your whole life, do you feel you need a major overhaul or just need a minor tune up? 

 For those of you who feel a major overhaul is in order, the tendency is to try and fix your whole life all at once. For a variety of reasons those who approach changing more than one habit or circumstance at a time, are often unsuccessful in achieving their goals. 
 

 

]]> Wed, 09 Jun 2010 00:00:00 PST Tune into your body http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/tune-into-your-body Do you know what it feels like to tune into your body and your intuition?

Many people live in their heads.  They are caught up in the rat race of life that they rely on their head to get them to where they need to get to.  But...did you know that when you live only in your head you lose out on powerful messages that come from your inner wisdom or your gut sense. 

How do you know you are living in your head?  Ask yourself, what are your thoughts?  Are they here in this moment , what can I do now, what am I feeling now, what do I want to accomplish now?  Or are they dwelling on the past or worrying about the future?  Many of us are anywhere but here. 

Watch today's video blog to understand more about what means to Tune into your body

]]> Tue, 25 May 2010 00:00:00 PST Summertime Connection and Fun http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/summertime-connection-and-fun Making this a reality for you Family

When you look ahead to summer, the knowledge that there will be less structure to your days can be very appealing. Imagining lazy days of sitting in the back yard or at the beach relaxing and enjoying the company of family and friends tends to dominate our thoughts. 

However, creating the opportunity for quality connections and fun this summer does not happen without some intention, action and planning along the way. 

What does your ideal summer look like?

]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 00:00:00 PST Starting a Stress Revolution - Want to join me? http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/starting-a-stress-revolution-want-to-join-me  

How many times do you hear “I am so stressed” during a single day? 

Once, twice or several times a day. It is amazing how many people are stressed. This stress may be due to their finances, their job, their family, their car, their boss, their kids etc. The list is endless. We all can agree that people have reason to be stressed, but what can we do about it NOW.
 
Research and statistics show that stress can be blamed for about 80% of what ails us. But, what are we doing about it - many people are resigned to the fact that they are stressed. They don’t think there is anything they can do about it so they let it continue. 

Stress hormone that accumulates in our body as the result of stress impacts not only our health but also our ability to think clearly and how we react to life’s challenges.

 

]]> Wed, 19 May 2010 00:00:00 PST What does Having it All Really Mean? http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/what-does-having-it-all-really-mean

So many of us are busy doing it all, being it all and trying to have it all that we have lost sight of what "All means to us". 

 
Listen to this video to get perspective on what we can do about this NOW. (It is my first video log - would love some feedback)

]]> Thu, 06 May 2010 00:00:00 PST Take Charge of Your Family Stress - What Now? http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/take-charge-of-your-family-stress-what-now Yesterday, I held the first of many webinars on "Taking Charge of Stress".  I have come to the conclusion that people are unaware of how much stress they and their family is under.  This lack of awareness is creating havoc on our health, our relationships and our performance.

Many people are resigned to the fact that their life is stressful and there is really nothing that they can do about it.  After all, we need to pay the bills, feed our children and make a living.  This is all true, but what many people fail to realize is that it not "What we have to do" that creates our stress, but our reaction to "What we have to do".

Between the stressful event and your reaction to it, you have a choice as how you can react.  Many people do not know any other way to be so they often act from anger, frustration, withdrawal or complacency.

]]> Wed, 05 May 2010 00:00:00 PST Are you Interested in Complaining About Your Life or Doing Somthing About It? http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/are-you-interested-in-complaining-about-your-life-or-doing-somthing-about-it  How many times have you heard yourself telling the same story over and over about how this thing or that thing is not working in your life? Do you feel like a broken record? What are you doing to make things different in your life? 

The truth is, many people are addicted to the drama in their lives. They would prefer to talk about what is wrong and get agreement from others than take steps to change or improve what they can.
]]> Tue, 30 Mar 2010 00:00:00 PST Day 5 - Back to the Real World http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/day-5-back-to-the-real-world Getting back to the real world after being on vacation can be a rude awakening.  As I travelled back from Maui with it's sun, sand and surf, I felt an incredible sense of gratitude for all that I have in my life.  Living in the moment was easy to do as I took in my last day of Paradise with my family.  I did not keep notes for my blog as I decided to let let days 3 and 4 go unrecorded.  As a brief summary, they were amazing.  We had a beautiful last day, travelled the island to take in some different sites on our way to the airport. 

 
Flying all night to get back home was a little exhausting and when I walked into the house and saw the stack of mail and emails I needed to deal with I felt a little overwhelmed.  However, I set up a plan and a strategy for how I wanted this week to go.  I feel ready to get back to the real world.

Living in the Moment is more challenging to do in the real

]]> Mon, 08 Feb 2010 00:00:00 PST Day 2 - Living in the Moment or Trying To http://www.clareconsulting.com/blog/day-2-living-in-the-moment-or-trying-to  Day 2 - Living in the Moment is easier for me when I am on vacation..  There are no plans, no schedules.  Just being able to be with the fresh ocean air, the blue skies and the sensations that are going on in my body keeps me grounded in the present moment. 

Did I keep my commitment to tuning into my body with my breath a minimum of 8 times during the day? 

I am now asking myself, why did I commit to doing this?

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