Doing it alone
Posted on October 4, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Doing your life alone is incredibly hard.
Whether you are parenting kids, growing your business or navigating through the chaos of day to day life, without support and guidance to get you through, life can be very lonely.
This past weekend, I attended Max Simon’s Sold out Seminar Secrets event in San Diego. This was my third event with Max as I am one of his coaching clients. Yet, even in this room of people that I knew from previous events, other purpose driven entrepreneurs, and healers, I felt very alone.
Why, because I did not allow myself to ask for help where I needed help nor was I open to receiving the help that was there. 
Don’t get me wrong. I ask for help a lot. As I build my business and charter new territory with the message I am putting out there, I rely on the help of coaches, mentors and friends to help me find my way. I am open to receiving this help as many times I am paying for the support these people are offering.
The type of help I need is more than just the business stuff, it is the heart stuff. Liesel Rigsby (check out her website at:
http://www.energeticmatchmaker.com) was one of the attendees at the conference. She and I have known each other since I began going to these events 3 months ago.
She said two things to me that really hit home. “Gerrianne, there is a place where you are not open to receiving the support and love from others” and “When you are standing in front of people, you get into your head which means you disconnect from your message and it makes it hard for people to trust you.”
Both of these statements struck a very deep chord with me and I have spent the morning processing. I know these statements are true because I can feel them in my body and I have been crying a lot. Both of these are good signs.
In my practice of supporting business women and moms to live their life to the fullest, I need to recognize the struggles and blocks that get in the way of me living my life to the fullest.
When I let people in to support me on all levels - business, personal and spiritual, my life feels richer and I feel whole. Saying it is one thing, allowing it is another.
I am totally committed to pushing through these blocks because I want to be supported in my whole life. I don't need to be strong and have it all handled for people to love me and care about me. If anything, I am more alone and disconnected when I try to do this.
My intention is that I be transparent of my own struggles in finding my way. With this transparency I hope you recognize yourself and know that with support, you too can find a richer, more fulfilling life.
Even though I have been processing and crying most of the morning, I feel clearer and more alive now that I have this clarity.
I am always leery to say I have it figured out because every time I do that, something inevitably shows up to prove me wrong. So today, I am clearer, I know what I want to do more of and I am incredibly grateful to the people in my life who are willing to show up fully and tell me what they see. I am committed to letting in the support that I receive.
I am also grateful for the obstacles that I continue to face along my journey. These struggles have given me the grounding and tools I need to support others in finding their way to more peace in their lives.
I love what I do and how it makes me feel (tears and all).
I would love to support you to feel more alive, more at peace and to have more fun in your life
Take care and PLEASE let me know your thoughts on this.
In love and friendship,
Gerrianne
Comments
Posted by Tanya on October 5, 2010 at 10:19:04am
As a working mom with 2 kids (one with special needs), I can certainly understand what you are saying. The hardest thing for me is the guilt I feel - especially when I am struggling to support everyone around me and there is no time for me to get help. I try to talk to my husband and he just wants to solve the problem and move on. I try to live each day putting one foot in front of the other - although some days I feel like I am climbing a mountain of stress. I am glad you have been able to find peace. It gives me hope that I might find it someday, too.
Posted by Darlene McBain on October 5, 2010 at 10:27:50am
It was good to see this today as I am struggling with my own obstacles and even though I have asked for help and I am getting it ..part of me is holding back and that is frustrating. I am going to try and reach out more even though that is beyond my comfort level right now. Change is never easy...is it?
I am trying to acknowledge to myself all the things that I am doing that I wasn't doing before as it shows me that I am making progress or that I am changing even if it small things. So today I am doing lists to show to myself at the end of the day what I have done for myself as well as for my home and husband.
Thanks for sharing
Posted by Pat on October 5, 2010 at 11:05:55am
I too struggle with asking for help . For me it's more of a trust issue. As I learn to trust myself the more I learn to trust others.Thanks for sharing your truth.
Posted by Sandi Mc Cabe on October 5, 2010 at 6:22:01pm
It is so great to hear about your tears and revelations! I have spent most of my adult life charging through my days getting things done! I feel that I donned an armour of busy-ness that did not allow people close to me. I was on a mission!
Now that I am older and wiser, I am open to looking inside myself and finding some key truths. I thank you for sharing! It means a lot to me.
Posted by Gerrianne on October 6, 2010 at 9:08:54am
Thanks for your comments. The mountain of stress can seem overwhelming at times. I love the saying "The journey of one thousand miles begins with a single step". If all you can do is find time to tune into your body with the breath for even a moment, that is one step closer to helping you feel more peace in your life. Take good care
Posted by Gerrianne on October 6, 2010 at 9:11:55am
Hi Darlene,
Way to go for reaching out even more. To acknowledge yourself each day for the things you do is one step towards feeling more at peace with yourself.
You are right, change is never easy but taking small steps is the only way to get to where you want to get to. Thank you so much for sharing
Much love,
Gerrianne
Posted by Gerrianne on October 6, 2010 at 9:13:52am
Hi Pat,
Trust is such a funny thing. You need to trust more to learn that you can trust more. Opening up to this is beautiful. Thanks for sharing
Much love,
Gerrianne
Posted by Sandi on October 6, 2010 at 9:17:16am
Getting things done is the mantra of people today and it is awesome that you recognize your busy-ness as a way of keeping people at a distance.
The journey into our souls to find those key truths creates amazing peace even through all of the struggles.
Take care
Gerrianne