I will be making my posts shorter to help you read them more “in the moment”. I will add to the blog every day or two but want to make sure you do not get overwhelmed with the length of them.
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5 Steps to Overcome Procrastination and Take Action
Posted on August 3, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Do you procrastinate and often find a myriad of excuses as to why you have not got things done?
Do you feel overwhelmed with the many things you have on your “to do” list and wonder how you will ever get started doing them let alone get them all done.
Many people blame a lack of time as the reason why they do not get things completed on their list. Granted, time is precious and there are many demands on all of us. However, sometimes the size of the list can often be the biggest reason why people do not get things done. They just don’t know where to start. What I have outlined are 5 simple steps that can help you tackle some of your list? So let’s begin.
Think about your list of things you need to get done in the next week. Take one of the items on your list and let’s work with it.
7 Ways to Decrease Your Stress - NOW
Posted on July 18, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Do you have a tremendous amount of mind chatter that goes on beneath the surface? Many people have self talk conversations that are negative abusive statements such as “you should”, “why did you do that” and “what is wrong with you?” These can lead to feelings of stress and overwhelm as we try and quiet the mind. Wouldn’t it be nice to speak with gentleness and kindness to yourself? To be loving and respectful of all you say and do.
Do you know how to steer your internal conversations onto the right track? I have outlined 7 questions to ask yourself to help you get grounded and mindful of what is happening in the present moment. Take a couple of minutes and ask yourself these questions.
7 Unrecognized Signs of Early Stress
Posted on July 11, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
People think of stress as being burnt out, crying alot, feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope. While these are definately signs of stress, they are often preceded by some earlier warning signs that people do not necessarily attribute to stress. These include:
7 Quick and Easy Steps to Using Your Intuition to Help You Make Decisions
Posted on May 30, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Are you overwhelmed with the number of decisions that you have to make? Are many of them appealing and hard to prioritize? Here are 7 quick and easy steps to help you find the answer that is best for you by tuning into your intuition.
1) Give yourself permission to take the time you need to really make the right decision - i.e. do not rush. The world will be better served when you are clear about what action to take.
I am over the wall
Posted on March 31, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I have had so many people commenting, emailing me and calling me to make sure I am okay. Thank you for the love, affirmation and support. I means more than you know.
Life has been quite a journey lately and I hit the wall, had to stand back, shake it off and get to the other side.
I am now over the wall and am alive to tell about it.
I have seen so much about me and the work I do over the last couple of days and I want to share a bit of this with you.
The Truth about Stress and Overwhelm
Posted on March 28, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
This last week I hit a wall. I looked at my list of things to do and realized that about 90% of them were about 90% done.
Nothing had been fully completed.
This scattered energy was costing me not only valuable time but also my self esteem.
AND I did not recognize it immediately.
4 Things You Can Do To Feel Better NOW
Posted on March 21, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How often do you outline the things you need to change in your life order to feel better? The truth is, we only have this moment in time to do anything. We can plan for the future - in this moment. However, in this moment, we can only do what we can do NOW.
What is getting in your way
Posted on March 14, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Over the last couple of weeks I have written and spoken to you about how to take care of yourself even when you don't have time.
Most often times people will say time, or money, or energy are the things that get in the way.
In my video blog today, I am approaching this from a bit of a different angle.
Untitled from Gerrianne Clare on Vimeo.
I would love to hear your thoughts about what is getting in your way.
Much Love,
Gerrianne
Audio - Taking Care of Yourself Even When You Don't Have Time
Posted on March 7, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
In last week's blog I shared 5 easy steps you can use to help take care of yourself even when you don't have time.
In today's audio, I have expanded on this theme with more details about each of these steps.
Listen to the audio then comment below and let me know your thoughts about these steps.
Much love,
Gerrianne
5 Easy Steps to Take Care of Yourself Even When You Don't Have Time
Posted on February 28, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
In today’s crazy world we often hear, “What are you doing to take care of yourself”?
For many people this is yet another thing “to do” and it feels like an impossible task with so many “other things” that take priority.
Today I want to offer you 5 quick and easy steps to take care of yourself “NOW”.
When it comes to taking care of yourself, what comes to mind?
7 Steps explored Audio Blog
Posted on February 7, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
In last weeks blog, I outlined 7 questions to help you decrease your stress. This week, I am exploring these questions in more detail so you can use these questions today.
I have recorded a short audio that looks at each of these questions in more detail.
As my gift to you I have created this as a download link so you can listen to it "on the go".
Setting Boundaries and Agreements - A Necessary Evil
Posted on December 13, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Over the years I have read alot about the importance of setting boundaries in life.
What does that really mean?
Setting boundaries is similar to defining expectations or agreements in a relationship.
For me, there are a multitude of areas where I want to set clearer boundaries in my life.
What about you?
Be Your Own Best Friend
Posted on June 21, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Years ago I read a book - "How to be your own best friend". I do not remember the author but I do remember how the concept intrigued me. It is amazing how often I would speak to myself in a way I would not speak to my enemies let alone a best friend. Our mind chatter or inner critic that dwells within can be very abusive. How about you? Do you have an inner critic that likes to tell you what more you should have done or could have done if only you were more committed, more enlightened, more organized etc.
How often do you give yourself a pat on the back, tell yourself you did a good job, or sing your praises to others? If you are like most of my clients, you never or rarely give yourself any acknowledgement for a job well done. Do you suffer from the "not enough" syndrome? What this means is, no matter how hard you work or how good you are, you will never be enough, do enough or have enough to feel good enou
When you fear telling the truth!!
Posted on June 16, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How often do you reveal your true self to the world?
The inner dialogue that many people have is “if people really know who I am, what I am thinking and what I am feeling, they would not like me”. This is called “imposter syndrome”. We feel like imposters in our lives because the way we present ourselves to the world has to look a certain way but is not really who we are. We fear that if our true nature were revealed we would be ridiculed or ignored.
Parent Your Teens With Confidence
Posted on June 10, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
If you are like most parents you want to guide your children into being happy, well adjusted, responsible adults.
The challenge is you are overwhelmed and frustrated with their acting our behavior, they don’t listen to you anymore and you don’t know how to let things go and let them grow.
They don’t come with a rule book.
There is a way to meet your goals of being an effective, clear parent and not feel tortured on the inside by the decisions you make and the expectations that you have.
Take the Moment-is Challenge
Posted on May 31, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I posted this challenge a year ago and even to this day I am getting comments about how much people enjoyed this post. So I thought I would put it out there again. I find using this system of tuning into the present moment is ideal for helping me to decrease my stress as I realize all I can do is what I can do in this moment. So here it is. Enjoy and let me know what you notice with doing this.
Many of us are WAY TOO BUSY to spend a lot of time on personal development but yet are desperate to find better ways to be more connected with ourselves, our children and our world. So I have developed the Moment-Is Challenge and use it myself every day.
For the next 30 days we are asking you to set aside 5 minutes each day to be “in the moment“.
Executive Women Having it All - What is the truth?
Posted on April 23, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I would love your help.
I am in the process of developing more “in the moment” tools for busy executive women to reduce their stress and feel better NOW. I also am working on a book to be written for the top executive woman who wants to “have it all” in her life. To that end, I would love your thoughts about the following!
How are you doing – really? Are you excited about where your life is going? Do you feel “at peace” with who you are and what you have accomplished so far?
For the past 35 years, through my work as a nurse, workshop facilitator, life coach and stress management expert I have had the privilege of working with thousands of individuals (primarily women) in helping them find the answers to these questions honestly. It has been an amazing journey.
5 minutes to Self Discovery - Yes you need to take the time
Posted on April 6, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Who are you? Many people answer this question with a description of their various roles.
For me I am a mother, coach, workplace consultant, former nurse, wife, sister, aunt, friend etc. With each of these roles I have certain expectations as to how I want to fulfill them. For example as a mom, I have three adult children whom I love spending time with, imparting my words of wisdom to (always being careful not to overdo the WISDOM part) and for many years my children defined me. By that I mean, everything that they said and did were a direct reflection of me i.e. their accomplishments, their dreams, their sorrows, their joys and their mistakes. I was totally tied into their stories and their lives to define me as a good mom, an attentive mom, someone who had it handled, someone who makes mistakes or someone who was not good enough or there enough for my kids. I had many judgements as to how well I fulfilled my role.
Day 8 - Easier Said than Done
Posted on February 11, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Have you ever had one of those days that life is great, you are in your groove, you are on top of the world then all of a sudden you are racing around like a chicken with its head cut off?
Well that describes me during the last two days.
As I began work on Day 6 I was quite encouraged about how grounded I was and how well I was doing with "Living in the Moment". I meditated for 20 minutes and felt amazing. I worked with two great coaching clients in the morning. We did some PSYCH-K and shifting of subconscious beliefs, visualizations and goal setting, and released some emotional blocks. I was in the flow, living in the moment, breathing, connecting with my inner self then bham!! Things changed.
Day 2 - Living in the Moment or Trying To
Posted on February 5, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Day 2 - Living in the Moment is easier for me when I am on vacation.. There are no plans, no schedules. Just being able to be with the fresh ocean air, the blue skies and the sensations that are going on in my body keeps me grounded in the present moment.
Did I keep my commitment to tuning into my body with my breath a minimum of 8 times during the day?
I am now asking myself, why did I commit to doing this?
Tuning into your body!!
Posted on August 13, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Our body is the most amazing vehicle we have to tune into the present moment. Our body is with us at all times, yet many of us do not spend any time in relationship with our bodies.
How does our body speak to us? We feel sensations of hunger, thirst, tiredness, etc. We feel emotions of anger, sadness, frustration and joy. We have voices that speak to us telling us what we should and should not do and we have our inner voice that tries to be heard.
Good Morning Body
Posted on August 4, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How many days do you jump (or stumble) out of bed, thinking about what you have to get done in one/two or three hours from NOW? You head into the shower and the list of things you need to do is running like a ticker tape through your head. From there, you grab your coffee, read the paper, feed the dog, get the kids up and out the door and before you know it you are in the car, heading off to work and you are wondering how you got there.
Permission to be Negative – Expanded
Posted on July 7, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I have had a few people email me about my posts “Giving Yourself Permission to be Negative” and “Shining Light on the Shadow”. They raised the question about when is enough enough so that the “Law of Attraction” does not become attracted to the negative energy you are releasing. To make it clear – giving yourself permission to be negative is a way of releasing the energy that gets built up in your system when you do not express it. It is like trying to keep a cork on a bottle of carbonated soda you have just shaken. Allowing the pressure to escape will result in a calm presence in the bottle afterwards. If however, you do not release the pressure, it can take a long time for the pressure to release.
Shining Light on the Shadow
Posted on July 3, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Many of us live in fear of something. Fear that we will be rejected, fear of what people will think or feel about us, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being alone, fear of being in relationship etc. This fear sits like a shadow or cloud over our heads that we know and feel is there but we are too often scared to look at.
Celebrate, Celebrate, and Celebrate Some More
Posted on June 30, 2009 12:22:33pm, by Jarrod Goddard
Do you give yourself permission to celebrate? We all know about the traditional celebrations of birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, graduations and even funerals where there is a celebration of a person’s life. What about the rest of the time? Do you only celebrate when there is a formal event to commemorate? Do you ever celebrate and acknowledge the gift that you are, the accomplishments that you have made, the dreams you have conquered?
Giving yourself permission to be negative!!
Posted on June 30, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I have written before about giving yourself permission and even outlined 24 things I would do if I gave myself permission to. Yet in the last couple of weeks, I have seen more evidence of how many ways we hold ourselves back in life because we do not give ourselves permission.
Are you Grounded?
Posted on June 22, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How many of you know what it means to be grounded? What does it look like for you?
Being grounded is knowing I am here, in my body, in this space and time, in this moment. I am present in my life – NOW.
Letting it go
Posted on June 16, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Well today is a day where I know I need to “Let it go“. As I look at my list of things to do and find myself scattered in getting them accomplished I realize that I have many “should’s” on my plate. It is time to let it go.
Telling yourself the truth
Posted on June 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I just had the opportunity to read a great blog about limiting beliefs by Kim de Young of Metromom. It is worthwhile reading for any of you who know that your subconscious beliefs get in the way of moving forward. She has a great way of sharing her insights. http://metromom.com/MetromomBlog/2009/06/10/women-entrepreneurs-are-limiting-beliefs-holding-you-back/
What Legacy Will You Leave?
Posted on June 5, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
This past weekend, we attended the funeral for a colleague and friend of my husband. I had met him a couple of times over the years and I knew his wife casually. It was a sad day. He left behind a wife and two young children as well as a whole community of family and friends. As I sat in the church listening to the words spoken about this man, I was reminded of Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” when he suggests “we begin with the end in mind”. What legacy do you want to leave behind? This man had lived life fully, he played hard, worked hard and loved his family deeply which was evident in all of the tributes paid to him in that full church. I imagine he would be pleased with how he was remembered.
Do Something That You Love TODAY!!!
Posted on June 3, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
What do you love to do? Take a moment and write out the things in your life that give you pleasure, joy, happiness and peace. Then ask yourself: When was the last time I gave myself permission to do any of these things?
Are you a Martyr or do YOU Matter!!!
Posted on June 1, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
What is a martyr? Someone who sacrifices their needs for the needs of others. Now this seems like a noble thing to do. Aren’t many of us conditioned from a young age to sacrifice ourselves for the good of others. Plus, the reality is that as a mother, there are times when it is absolutely essential to put our needs lower down on the list because we have babies and children to feed, change, organize etc.
WHO ARE YOU? Take 5 minutes to begin your journey of discovery
Posted on May 26, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Who are you?
Many people answer this question with a description of their various
roles.
For me I am a mother, coach, workplace consultant, former nurse, wife, sister, aunt, friend etc. With each of these
roles I have certain expectations
as to
how I want to fulfill them
.
Giving Myself Permission to do NOTHING
Posted on May 24, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Life has been busy for me lately with the re:design and content development of my web site, writing and recording podcasts, writing blog posts as well as seeing clients and all of the administration that comes with owning my own business. I just took training on Twitter and Linked-in and feel a bit overwhelmed with all I have to do. I absolutely love it all and feel on track with everything but the volume of work at times seems a bit over the top.
Feeling good – “in the moment”
Posted on May 21, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
There has been a lot written about the “Law of Attraction”, “The Secret”, “Power of Positive Thinking” and many others to help guide us on the road to living and thinking more positively. These books and self improvement movements are attempting to teach us that we can manifest and achieve greatness in our lives depending on our perspective and our beliefs. In order to have the life we want, we need to change how we think and feel in order to achieve what we want to attract in our lives.
The Intentional Breath
Posted on May 19, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
The breath is the most underutilized tool available to us “in the moment”. Research shows that when we breathe deeply into the very base of our lungs that we can calm down our nervous system which is responsible for many of our stress symptoms.
Real life stress
Posted on May 16, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
My education into the world of stress came to me a few years ago when I was working at a very demanding job. When I took on the job I was gung-ho and set up a variety of systems to insure I did the job well. I was organized, articulate and efficient at what needed to get done and I felt capable and confident in what I was doing. As time went on, I achieved great strides and many kudos from my colleagues.
Cortisol – We need you but enough already
Posted on May 15, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Cortisol is a hormone that is secreted by our adrenal glands and is a necessary part of our waking and sleep cycles. We need it to wake us up in the morning but if we have too much cortisol, it can be a problem.
Stress and Adrenaline – what can you do?
Posted on May 13, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Adrenaline is a hormone that is secreted by our sympathetic nervous system in response to an event real or imagined that has us scared. People often refer to it as the fight, fright or freeze response. It is the hormone that is responsible for people having an uncanny amount of strength in scary situations e.g. lifting a car off a person to save their life etc.
BLOW OFF SOME STEAM!!!
Posted on May 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
One of the ways for helping to get you in the moment is to ask:
In this moment – how do I feel? Many of my clients feel angry, frustrated or overwhelmed by the demands put on them by themselves, their families or their workplace. Yet they put on a mask by being nice all of the time, holding it in and not telling the truth about how they are feeling. On the inside they are seething.
“In the moment” posts
Posted on May 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I have been enjoying the writing so much and have noticed they are getting a bit too long. I have so much I want to share with you and in my enthusiasm I get a little long winded.
When my online community starts in July, I will have podcasts that expand on my blog and you can then listen to them on the run. Until them, my intention is to make the blog posts readable within 1-2 minutes.
Take care
Gerrianne
Take the Moment-Is Challenge
Posted on May 3, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Many of us are WAY TOO BUSY to spend a lot of time on personal development but yet are desperate to find better ways to be more connected with ourselves, our children and our world. So we at Clare Consulting Group have developed the Moment-Is Challenge.
In this moment – WHAT do you feel?
Posted on April 27, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
In the last post I talked about “In this moment- how do you feel” which focuses on your emotions and your here and now experience. Taking this the next step further, ask yourself “WHAT do I feel – physically – now“.
In this Moment – How do you feel?
Posted on April 25, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
One of the quickest ways I know to connect with the present moment is to ask myself “How am I feeling right now?” When I am disconnected with the present moment my feelings are often based on what has happened in the past or worry and fear about the future.
In this moment: What do you hear?
Posted on April 24, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How many conversations have you been in when you suddenly realize you have not heard a thing the person has said? You were tuned out and not present at all to the person or conversation. What is worse, when you need to respond you are at a loss for words. Sometimes people answer the question that they thought they heard and discover that they were way off base.
In this Moment- what do you see?
Posted on April 22, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Have you ever noticed that sometimes we can look at something without really seeing it. We are lost in thought focusing on the struggles of our day and our life simply passes us by. Part of being in the moment means that we are present to the events that are happening around us. We are here.