5 minutes to Self Discovery - Yes you need to take the time

Posted on April 6, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Who are you? Many people answer this question with a description of their various roles.

For me I am a mother, coach, workplace consultant, former nurse, wife, sister, aunt, friend etc. With each of these roles I have certain expectations as to how I want to fulfill them. For example as a mom, I have three adult children whom I love spending time with, imparting my words of wisdom to (always being careful not to overdo the WISDOM part) and for many years my children defined me. By that I mean, everything that they said and did were a direct reflection of me i.e. their accomplishments, their dreams, their sorrows, their joys and their mistakes. I was totally tied into their stories and their lives to define me as a good mom, an attentive mom, someone who had it handled, someone who makes mistakes or someone who was not good enough or there enough for my kids. I had many judgements as to how well I fulfilled my role.

I had a client  today who described his life and who he was by what he did and the roles he fulfilled in the lives of the people around him.  This was an eye opener for him as he realized that if he did not have those roles that defined him, he was not clear what he had to offer the world.  With the busyness of life, it is easy to lose ourselves in the doingness of life and forget to just "be" in our lives.

How about you?  Are you totally defined by your roles – parent, nurse, teacher, health care worker, daughter etc.

Even though it may seem natural to do this, it is not who you really are!!

Behind all of the roles and expectations you have for living your life, who are you really?   What makes you – YOU? If you do not spend any time in relationship with yourself, how will you really know who you are?  When you spend this time you start to get connected with what is at the core of who you are and it is a beautiful journey of discovery.

My challenge for you today is to spend 5 minutes quietly in relationship with yourself.

Turn off all electronics (TV, cell phone, computer etc.),

Sit quietly in a chair,

Close your eyes and breathe deeply and intentionally.

Set a timer so you know that you will be alerted when the time has passed.

Notice what you hear

Notice what you see

Notice how you feel

Notice what you feel

Still your mind chatter

breathe.

Just notice what you notice and

BE IN THE MOMENT

I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING YOUR STORIES. 

Take care and I will blog with you later.

Gerrianne

 

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